Let’s Hear it for the Ladies

Educate. Encourage. Empower. These are all powerful words that anyone can rally behind. However, we specifically chose these words to define what happens when teaching women self-defense. We want to educate them about how to defend themselves. We want to encourage them to be strong and forceful should the situation arise. And we want to empower women helping them to understand that despite their size, age, physical prowess that they CAN defend themselves against an unwelcome danger.

We hear about it in the news, whether it is locally or nationally, where women are assaulted in parking lots, at shopping centers, at the park, or even in their homes. The media could cause us all to believe one of several things: 1. That could never happen to me, in my town, in my subdivision, in my school, 2. That we should never leave our homes because danger lurks everywhere, or 3. That we should all run out and buy a gun! The Wicked Queen’s response to all of that, “Good grief!” Let’s just make this clear, no one is immune from savagery. Bad people do bad things and we just hope we are not in their way with the switch flips. You can live in the best neighborhood, have the security gates, the alarm system, etc. and if a “bad guy” wants what you have, he/she will try to take it. They are bad guys. They do bad things. To anybody. Secondly, I don’t know about you, but I can’t live my life within the same four walls of my isolated home. I have to live in the world, not be of the world. And lastly, “everybody go get a gun”. Great! So now you have a gun. Do you know how it works? Do you know how to shoot? Do you practice with it on a regular basis? Do you practice using it under stress drills (like someone attacking you)? No? Then it’s about as useful as a stick. The media would drive you to craziness, even companies are trying to jump on the fear bandwagon. I heard the other day about an app that you use on your phone to take the bad guys picture and record whats happening (sounds threatening-ooo). Great! After the attack is all over, you can share that with the police. Seriously. Let’s not all loose our heads with fear over what we hear or see in the media. Let’s do something.

While I know a lot of this sounds juvenile, it is honest. The only person who can defend you is YOU! Do not rely on a place, a person, or a thing to protect you. Learn to do it yourself! With that said…. here is a great opportunity to feed your need to defend yourself. We have another Educate. Encourage. Empower. Seminar coming up on Saturday, October 8th at 9:30AM. This is open to anyone (ages 13+) who believes they need to learn to defend themselves – that means YOU! It also means your daughter, your sister, your friend, your neighbor, your mother, even your mother-in-law (ok well, maybe not her – just kidding – yes, her too!). The cost is $30.

Our very own Professor André Mateus, a third degree black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, will be leading this 2 to 3 hour seminar. We will learn to use Brazilian Jiu Jitsu grappling techniques involving leverage and positions to render a potential attacker ineffective. André’s jovial and sincere nature is a perfect combination to teach you some of the skills to defend yourself against an objectionable character. Come and spend some time adding tools to your tool belt that will aid you far longer than the few hours that you sacrifice on a Saturday.

General athletic wear is all that is necessary: shorts, sweat pants, yoga pants, and a sleeved t-shirt. No shoes please.

If you have any questions, feel free to call or email.

To register go to: (cut and paste may be necessary)


-The Wicked Queen

My, how things are changing!

Hello NKM & BJJ folks! 

2015 is coming to a close and that means a whole new year of possibilities. I don’t know about you, but I love the feeling of anticipation that typically comes with the end of one year and the beginning of another.

In 2015, we celebrated three years of making middle Tennessee safer and healthier. We have been living out our mission:

“…..to create positive change in people’s lives using proven self-defense and fitness methods in a simple, family-oriented atmosphere while creating effective programs to make our family, friends, and community safer and healthier.” Read more

Notes from the Wicked Queen:

You, my dear readers, often hear from the experienced male perspective about training at NKM&BJJ. I think another story needs to be heard, on occasion, that gives insight from a different point of view. Ta-dah…Me! Let me make it very clear – I know little and I’m an expert at nothing. I am a newbie BJJ student, a hit-and-miss KM student, a wife, and a mom who has the vocabulary of sailor. Here’s my take on the world around NKM&BJJ. Read more

Why do you rush so much?

Why do you rush so much?

I am thankful for my microwave. It heats my food quickly and efficiently, and makes cooking a bit more convenient. However, it doesn’t make the best home-cooked meals, just an acceptable substitute. Seriously, the “old days” of using the oven to reheat leftovers was time consuming and wasteful. No one goes to a 5-star restaurant and wants microwaved food. Why then do we ask for (and accept) microwaved training? Read more

Don’t pass on the basics!

Instructor: “I know this seems a bit simple for you guys, but it will pick up.”

Us: “No worries. It’s always good to go back and practice the fundamentals.”

This is how training started this last week. The instructor was informing my partner and me about the pace and scope of training. Right after this exchange, I realized that some of these skills I had not deliberately practiced in over 4 years. Four years? Wow! However, by the end of the week, not only had I identified weaknesses in my own skill sets, but had been able to correct some imperfections. I wonder how much my performance suffered from this lack of practice. Read more

Dost thou traineth or refraineth from athletic pursuits this day?

I am about to lose my mind. Not literally, but figuratively for sure. I sit here on a rainy, Nashville morning having not done ANY significant training of any kind in three weeks. Three weeks!? For someone that has been athletically training for 30 years that feels like a lifetime. From the basement of the East Nashville YMCA with free weights and learning from the “old school dudes” to Army PT to CrossFit to Nashville Krav Maga & Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, I have trained regularly. And now I just sit here. Grrrrrrr. Read more

New Year, New You OR Different page, Same story?

To borrow from FDR, New Year’s Day – a day that will live in infamy.

Why should I say that? “Infamy” means ‘the condition of being known for having done bad things or being evil.’ What can be evil or bad about New Year’s Day? It’s about time off from work, college bowl games, relaxing, a very late night prior (ok, maybe that makes your morning evil or bad). Read more

Enjoy the Journey


As a trainer and coach I often hear comments like, “Is it ever going to get easier?” or “Will I feel this way always?” My response is always the same – enjoy the journey!  Many struggle with that singular statement – Enjoy the Journey – but when developing athletes, specifically athletes that are learning to defend themselves and their loved ones, that is exactly what they must do. Every day we are building you to have the “Fighting Spirit” necessary to carry out your tasks. Read more

The last W’s – Who, When, and Why of Self-Defense

Bringing it all together

In our last three conversations, we have explored the following questions: Who needs self defense? Everyone does. What is self defense? Self defense was defined as:  the act of acquiring and honing the skills necessary to protect a person, place, or thing from an attack. Where do I go for self defense? Find one that suits your needs for self defense training based upon what they teach, the “heart” of the school, and their training philosophy. We can now conclude this series by tackling the When, How, and Why of self defense. Read more