She’s Back! The Wicked Queen Speaks

Have you ever worked so hard on something and it just seemed to take longer than you thought it would to achieve it? (Duh, like a hundred times!) Recently, for  NKM&BJJ the object of desire has been a website upgrade. We have had enough technical glitches and computer malfunctions to last a lifetime. (I don’t know who enjoys this stuff!) Additionally, I personally think I’m going blind form staring at the screen for so long. With all of this work, I know there are probably a few glitches with it, BUT…the new website is up and going!

We hope that you find it helpful and engaging. Each tab will provide much information. The calendar is a little different and ever evolving, therefore it will take us a bit to get all of the information into it. We believe it will be more user friendly. Additionally, the Blog tab will be where we share information about upcoming events and sign-ups. Be sure to subscribe to the Blog so you will get the latest and greatest information.

I’d love to get your feedback, hopefully (fingers crossed) it’s all good. If it’s not good, could you save those comments until Tuesday? Mondays are hard enough.


The Wicked Queen

Two Years and Counting

*The Wicked Queen wrote this back in December, however it never seemed appropriate to share this personal celebration with anyone. Recently, I’ve heard visitors saying – “Oh, I can’t do that!”, “I’m too …..” At the same time, I’ve heard members sharing some of their personal accomplishments. Visitors to NKM&BJJ need to know that all of the members were just like them once. So, I decided to bare it all and share with you.


Today is a big celebration day for me. It means nothing to anyone else, just me. Two years ago today I took my first BJJ class. I remember it very clearly, more because I felt totally and completely ridiculous even being in the training room.  Read more

Imaginary Lines

Let me ask you a question? Do you feel that only certain people should be allowed to shop at a local stores? Go to the dentist? To the doctor? To acquire other services available in the public community? Let me clarify. If someone has a need to see, let’s say, a physician, can anyone go to the physician or only certain people? If the physician is in ones community, they have the financial means to pay for the services, they have the physical ability to walk in the door to the physicians office, and better yet, had mind enough to know they needed the physicians assistance, can only certain people go to that physician? Read more

Knock it off already!

Recently I had an interesting conversation with my oldest daughter. She was struggling with math; her arch nemesis. She found herself doubting her own abilities even more than usual that day. Her comment to me was, “I’m not like my brother and sister who “get it” and that makes me feel bad about myself.” She continued, “This sibling seems to “get it” with no problem at all, and then the other one seems to work only a little bit and then they “get it”. I struggle over math EVERY TIME.” She again expressed how it made her feel bad about herself and that she just “knew” she was never going to “get it”. Read more

Testing – Take it all in stride

From time to time each of us are faced with a “test” of some sort. At NKM&BJJ, those “tests” are typically for belt rank or stripe rank. While there are many that battle the worthiness of a test, I will readily admit that I see these “tests” from both sides of the argument. The fact remains that at NKM&BJJ it is a requirement, therefore arguing over it is moot. So here I am preparing for an upcoming test. Read more

How we deal with injuries

For any athlete that trains on a regular basis, injuries are inevitable. We hear this from everyone….coaches, instructors, advanced students, and every article, blog, or news clip you find. So when something happens, it shouldn’t be a surprise to us. What really occurs following an injury is rather fascinating. Though we are all different individuals, our reactions to the injury are all similar – questioning. Read more

This will change you

I have been pondering a statement I heard last night from Coach. Isn’t it funny how someone can say something to you and it sticks around in your head for a while. While watching a class at the gym, Coach says, “This will change you.” Four words and they have blown my mind. Read more

New Eyes

It was a rarity for me and the children; a trip to the mall. I don’t like shopping, but we had gifts to buy. We went to the local megalopolis, where the hustle and bustle were at full tilt. It has been a long while since last I had visited the retail dome. Read more

Just Another Manic Monday

It’s been one of those days!

It’s as though it’s been Monday every day for several days in a row. You know what I mean? It starts first thing in the morning – bam! Someone in your household drove YOUR car over the weekend and used up all of the gas, unbeknownst to you. So now, not only are you running late, but you have to fill the tank up. Oh, and then you hear the traffic report – lovely! You get to work and your email box has multiplied over the weekend like rabbits, with at least five messages that say URGENT. I haven’t even mentioned the number of voicemails you have to return. Your boss, employees, and co-workers are also experiencing a Monday which means everybody’s mood at the office is FABULOUS! Read more

Notes from the Wicked Queen

Let’s talk gym friends.

I, just like many of you, attend a class several times a week. I take the classes because I enjoy what I am learning, I want to progress and get better, and sometimes I need to relieve some stress in an appropriate manner. My Spousal Unit prefers that I not pick a fight over something trivial. And the kiddos definitely don’t like “angry face” mom. But let’s be real honest, I also attend class so I can see my gym friends – my training partners. Read more