Just Another Manic Monday

It’s been one of those days!

It’s as though it’s been Monday every day for several days in a row. You know what I mean? It starts first thing in the morning – bam! Someone in your household drove YOUR car over the weekend and used up all of the gas, unbeknownst to you. So now, not only are you running late, but you have to fill the tank up. Oh, and then you hear the traffic report – lovely! You get to work and your email box has multiplied over the weekend like rabbits, with at least five messages that say URGENT. I haven’t even mentioned the number of voicemails you have to return. Your boss, employees, and co-workers are also experiencing a Monday which means everybody’s mood at the office is FABULOUS! Read more

Notes from the Wicked Queen

Let’s talk gym friends.

I, just like many of you, attend a class several times a week. I take the classes because I enjoy what I am learning, I want to progress and get better, and sometimes I need to relieve some stress in an appropriate manner. My Spousal Unit prefers that I not pick a fight over something trivial. And the kiddos definitely don’t like “angry face” mom. But let’s be real honest, I also attend class so I can see my gym friends – my training partners. Read more

Notes from the Wicked Queen:

You, my dear readers, often hear from the experienced male perspective about training at NKM&BJJ. I think another story needs to be heard, on occasion, that gives insight from a different point of view. Ta-dah…Me! Let me make it very clear – I know little and I’m an expert at nothing. I am a newbie BJJ student, a hit-and-miss KM student, a wife, and a mom who has the vocabulary of sailor. Here’s my take on the world around NKM&BJJ. Read more

Why do you rush so much?

Why do you rush so much?

I am thankful for my microwave. It heats my food quickly and efficiently, and makes cooking a bit more convenient. However, it doesn’t make the best home-cooked meals, just an acceptable substitute. Seriously, the “old days” of using the oven to reheat leftovers was time consuming and wasteful. No one goes to a 5-star restaurant and wants microwaved food. Why then do we ask for (and accept) microwaved training? Read more

Don’t pass on the basics!

Instructor: “I know this seems a bit simple for you guys, but it will pick up.”

Us: “No worries. It’s always good to go back and practice the fundamentals.”

This is how training started this last week. The instructor was informing my partner and me about the pace and scope of training. Right after this exchange, I realized that some of these skills I had not deliberately practiced in over 4 years. Four years? Wow! However, by the end of the week, not only had I identified weaknesses in my own skill sets, but had been able to correct some imperfections. I wonder how much my performance suffered from this lack of practice. Read more

Dost thou traineth or refraineth from athletic pursuits this day?

I am about to lose my mind. Not literally, but figuratively for sure. I sit here on a rainy, Nashville morning having not done ANY significant training of any kind in three weeks. Three weeks!? For someone that has been athletically training for 30 years that feels like a lifetime. From the basement of the East Nashville YMCA with free weights and learning from the “old school dudes” to Army PT to CrossFit to Nashville Krav Maga & Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, I have trained regularly. And now I just sit here. Grrrrrrr. Read more

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Okay guys and gals, it has unfortunately been WAY TOO long since my last blog entry. But, “have no fear, Underdog is here.”  (Sorry, I had a childhood cartoon flashback for a minute). Now back to our regularly scheduled blog. As we approach a new year and new challenges, I wanted to throw out some thoughts about training. This is not your typical, how-to-do “x” technique, nor is it a long list. Simply put, I want to encourage you to train and to keep training. Read more

New Year, New You OR Different page, Same story?

To borrow from FDR, New Year’s Day – a day that will live in infamy.

Why should I say that? “Infamy” means ‘the condition of being known for having done bad things or being evil.’ What can be evil or bad about New Year’s Day? It’s about time off from work, college bowl games, relaxing, a very late night prior (ok, maybe that makes your morning evil or bad). Read more

Enjoy the Journey


As a trainer and coach I often hear comments like, “Is it ever going to get easier?” or “Will I feel this way always?” My response is always the same – enjoy the journey!  Many struggle with that singular statement – Enjoy the Journey – but when developing athletes, specifically athletes that are learning to defend themselves and their loved ones, that is exactly what they must do. Every day we are building you to have the “Fighting Spirit” necessary to carry out your tasks. Read more

The last W’s – Who, When, and Why of Self-Defense

Bringing it all together

In our last three conversations, we have explored the following questions: Who needs self defense? Everyone does. What is self defense? Self defense was defined as:  the act of acquiring and honing the skills necessary to protect a person, place, or thing from an attack. Where do I go for self defense? Find one that suits your needs for self defense training based upon what they teach, the “heart” of the school, and their training philosophy. We can now conclude this series by tackling the When, How, and Why of self defense. Read more